Chemistry in christian dating
I strongly believe that God brings people who represent what can be in love as a gift and opportunity to work through the those barriers which prevent you from accepting and receiving his love fully.
If you end the relationship, you will more than likely repeat your relationship pattern and experience another heartbreak.
Last week I read an interview with Tia Mowry where she stated that she didn’t KISS her husband Cory until after one FULL year of courting.
People praised her for her ability to restrain her urges, and in the middle of these Christian high-fives, there was a small group of people asking a very overlooked, yet important question: What happens when you stay celibate to marry someone, just to find out there’s no physical chemistry?
These are all preferences that are taken into consideration (by both sexes) when choosing a spouse. Every marriage moves beyond the new-love, high-octane phase eventually, according to Psychologist Dorothy Tennov.
Likewise—I understand I didn’t just step out of a GQ magazine, so I’ve got my limitations and an uphill battle as to attracting a girl with the utmost “zing-pow” effect. What if all of those godly traits are there, but nothing “jumps”? There has got to be chemistry and a mutual, eros love of sexual attraction (which is much more than just physical attraction) that will keep that intimate part of a marriage thriving and healthy for many, many, many years. Find a gorgeous woman (or man), marry her (or him), and live happily ever after. But movies always end before the fireworks (what your friend calls “zing-pop”) die down. The longest it can last is three years, and often it’s less.
That doesn’t mean he’s turned into THIS: But it DOES mean that he’s now trying to learn something that NO ONE in the church prepared him for: How to overcome sexual compatibility after being celibate or abstinent.Me personally, I wouldn’t date a woman for longer than three weeks without kissing her, because I would be intently interested in examining the nature of our physical connection, which I deem to be just as important as the mental and emotional connections.Over the three years I’ve been writing this blog, I’m pretty sure I’ve mentioned MANY times how far removed I am from Christianity .For example, I recently sent the Boundless article “” to one of my single guy friends.
Here’s what he had to say about it: I agree, but what about the spark?
The relationship with this man seems lacking in passion because he represents the opposite of what you know and the qualities and characteristics he brings to your life offer balance and stability.