Avoiding and accommodating
People who accommodate are unassertive and very cooperative.They neglect their own concerns to satisfy the concerns of others.Here we focus on the “Personal Conflict Style Inventory” developed by Ron Kraybill and Mennonite Conciliation Services (1987).This is a brief questionnaire that uses the five conflict styles identified in the Thomas-Kilmann instrument accommodation, compromise, competition, avoidance and collaboration – and expands the focus to examine how you react to conflicts when they first arise, and how you respond after the conflicts become more intense.Many tools are available to help individuals be aware of the way they act in conflict.For peacebuilding, knowing how you react to conflict and communicating with people is very important.For example, a business that requires formal dress may institute a "casual Friday" policy as a low-stakes means of keeping the peace with the rank and file.
(This technique can backfire if you end up with a reputation for not standing your ground.
Besides its native language, the TKI is also available in Spanish, French, Portuguese, Danish, Dutch, Swedish, Japanese, and Chinese (traditional and simplified).
The TKI is designed to measure a person's behavior in conflict situations.
It is used by Human Resources (HR) and Organizational Development (OD) consultants as a catalyst to open discussions on difficult issues and facilitate learning about how conflict-handling modes affect personal, group, and organizational dynamics.
More than 7,000,000 copies of the TKI have been published since 1974. Interpretation and feedback materials help you learn about the most appropriate uses for each conflict-handling mode. The TKI is a self-scoring assessment that takes about fifteen minutes to complete.Use this strategy carefully.) Two other times when an accommodating strategy can be appropriate: (1) if you are a manager and want your subordinates to take on responsibility and learn from their own mistakes, and (2) when you are hopelessly outmatched in power and the other side is using a competing strategy and you are going to lose anyway. If you feel that your concerns are never acknowledged and your opinions are ignored, you may be too accommodating.